Effective Check-in For a More Connected Relationship
Effective Check-in For a More Connected Relationship
Free guide · Effective Check-In
A monthly check-in that brings you closer
Most couples only have the big talks once something's already wrong. This free guide gives you a simple monthly check-in instead: a few ground rules, the questions to ask each other, and a place to write down what you'll work on next, all in about 15 to 30 minutes.
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The big idea
Why a check-in beats waiting
Life gets busy, and the little things pile up quietly. One of you starts to feel a bit distant, the other doesn't notice, and by the time it comes out it's a much bigger conversation than it needed to be.
A check-in gives you both a regular, safe time to say how things are going, the good parts too, before anything has a chance to build up.
It's us versus the problem.
How it works
Four parts, one evening a month
Set it up
Pick a neutral spot, put the phones away, and agree on the ground rules.
Look back
What went well last month, and when you felt most connected or most distant.
Check in
Your needs, quality time, intimacy, and what makes each of you feel loved.
Look ahead
One goal to work on together, written down, with your next check-in date.
Here's one question from the guide
"What can I do to make you feel more loved?"
Inside the guide
What you'll walk away with
About 15 to 30 minutes, once a month. You can fill it in right in the PDF.
Is this for you?
Made for busy couples
This is for you if
You want to stay close as life gets busy, small things tend to pile up before they get talked about, or you'd like an easier way to talk about needs and intimacy.
One honest note
It's written for two people who both feel safe. If you feel afraid of your partner, or there's control, threats or pressure, please reach out to a local support line or counselor first.
We're Kathy and Axell, the couple behind LoveSecurely. We take connection walks and ask each other deep questions, and those small, regular talks keep us close. This check-in is a simple way to build the same habit at home.
Keep going. We believe in you.
Questions
Is it really free?
Yes. No credit card, nothing to buy. You'll also get our emails about relationships, and you can unsubscribe anytime.
How do I get it?
Tap "Get the free check-in", add your first name and email, and the check-in opens right away.
How often should we do it?
Once a month works well. There's a spot at the end to set your next date, so it turns into a habit.
What if a check-in turns into a disagreement?
That's okay. The guide's ground rules help: focus on understanding first and solutions second, and take a break if things get heated. You can disagree and still love each other.
Can I fill it in on my phone?
Yes. The questions and action items are fillable right in the PDF, on your phone or computer.
Is this a replacement for counseling?
No. It's a simple tool for staying connected. If things feel bigger than that, a counselor is a great next step.
The Effective Check-In pairs with our Love, Goals and Growth workbook. Start here, and the rest is there when you want it.
